Why do we create conflicts?

Personally I feel that I’m involved in less micro conflicts than many of the people around me.
I think I have an answer to that.
My focus is on what people are saying and not how!
Personally I believe that if we all could stop focusing on how and try to understand what people are saying, we would have less conflicts.
To reduce the personal impact on how things are told I believe it’s necessary to understand how to communicate with less violence and above all become more prestigeless.